Building Resilience: How Failure Helps
We would all like to live a life where we didn't fail at anything. We can feel that it'd really be ideal if everything we turn our hand to was successful. Similarly, would also like to know how to build resilience to the difficulties in our life. However, building resilience can't happen in a life that only contains success. Why do resilience and failure go together?
Resilience is our ability to cope with unexpected circumstances, and can be thought of as emotional fitness. If we are resilient, we are then able to cope better with life's ups and downs. Building resilience is something that we can all aim to be better at and the benefits for us will be profound and long-lasting.
Unfortunately, we can't build resilience on success alone. It takes failure for us to build our inner strength and work out how to deal with failure. A life of unbroken success doesn't test us; if we are untested, then we are unprepared for what might come.
How to build resilience
Our resilience is built when we face failures. We also build it when we accept that some things can't be changed or we face our unfinished business. Every time we overcome something which she is challenging to us but where we ultimately prevail, we build our resilience a little bit more. When it's stronger, we have a greater ability to then withstand even greater challenges.
However, we are sometimes overwhelmed and momentarily defeated by our challenges. Although this is hard for us, there is an opportunity for growing even greater resilience. These momentary defeats call on even greater reserves. When we do bounce back, we do which with much greater inner strength.
Facing our challenges
It's understandable that we want to avoid challenges that are too great. Having too many challenges can make life impossible. However, through doing this, we ultimately deny ourselves the ability to greatly increase our resilience. And who knows – perhaps we might even be successful in meeting these larger challenges!
Let me know what you think in the comments. Now, read about why change is so hard.
– Tim Hill