Introverts: the Quiet Australians
Most of us are familiar with the distinction between an introvert and an extrovert; we usually have a pretty fair handle on which of these best describes us. Both are
Most of us are familiar with the distinction between an introvert and an extrovert; we usually have a pretty fair handle on which of these best describes us. Both are
We all strive to be better at what we do; this is part of the way that we improve our self-esteem. Accomplishing things makes us feel good, and the better
We have all heard the expression ‘think positive’; it’s often claimed that if we start thinking negatively, then all is lost. Negative thinking is seen as always a bad thing, and
When we suffer, we want a relief to our suffering quickly so we seek out those we think can help. When we have a medical problem, we seek out a
When we think of changing a child’s behaviour, we often think of rewards and punishments. We believe certain behaviour should be rewarded, and other behaviour punished. We also believe that if
‘I suffer from a lack of self-confidence’ is a statement that many might make to describe how they feel about their circumstances. Implicit in this is the belief that we
Freud once said that each of us needs to make the choice between a life of everyday misery and illusion. Even though he said this more than hundred years ago,
Many people want to change aspects of themselves, and it’s natural that they seek help to do so. However, when you seek help from a number of different sources, the
When we think of psychotherapy, we often think about things in ourselves we would like to change. Sometimes we want to understand ourselves better, and because we don’t like some
Many men – some women – are struggling with their compulsive use of pornography and want to quit. The conventional approach to dealing with this urges them to ‘just stop’; attempts to
Maltz, W. and K. (2008) ‘The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography’, Harper, New York via Booko / from Amazon Rather than a book for
In some ways, the analogy of a carpenter using his tools to shape wood is a good analogy for the process of psychotherapy. It also brings out some of the
When we are trying to deal with the world of emotion, we can often forget or be confused about the differences between moods and emotions. Knowing what are moods and
It is very common for people to have a fear of the unknown. We don’t know is ahead of us, and we can sometimes doubt our ability to handle it
Many people these days seek out professional psychological help for their difficulties. They hope that by seeing a mental health professional they will change the things that they see as
We have all heard the expression that experiences are character building; the implication is that the worse the experience is, the better the character built. The idea seems to have
One of the thing most exciting developments in neuroscience is in the way that we have begun to think about mental illness. This new way of thinking gives new hope
Our minds are fascinating things, allowing us to perform all sorts of everyday amazing feats of deduction and interpretation, but they are also the source of the most puzzling, infuriating
For many of us, our feelings are private; we can feel embarrassment or shame when others see us experience them. Our feelings often seem so hard to hide from people
A question I get asked quite often is ‘should I try to work this problem out for myself, or do I need some help?’. It’s a fair question, as there
A couple of days ago whilst out on a walk, I overheard a woman talking to a man. They were on opposite sides of a car, talking across the roof;
Coping with your addictions is hard. Whether the problem is a substance or a form of behaviour, we want to loosen the hold that these addictions have on us. We
We all have secrets. At our core, there are things that we just don’t want other people to know and we hold on to these private things for all we
People seek counselling / psychotherapy for all sorts of reasons. For many people who seek help, the reason is pretty straightforward; they are in distress, they don’t know what to