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Intersection of Perspectives

Intersection of Perspectives

by Tim Hill
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  • Relationships / The self
  • 04 Jun

This is the second time this has happened to me recently; I was out riding my bike and came to a give way sign at an intersection. There was a

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Scapegoats

Scapegoats: The Designated Problem

by Tim Hill
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  • Relationships
  • 16 Feb

.Many people come to therapy for the first time because their partner has sent them. One partner has done something which the other partner finds unacceptable, so they are labelled

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our partner's past

Relationships: Coping with Our Partner’s Past

by Tim Hill
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  • Emotions / Relationships
  • 31 Jan

We all bring history into our relationships, and sometimes that history is difficult for new partners. For some, it is very difficult to accept the things that our new partner

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The Slow Work of Making Progress

by Tim Hill
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  • Change / Relationships / The self
  • 03 Dec

If you are seeking counselling or psychotherapy, you can sometimes have the idea that the therapist will be able to make dramatic changes to your life through brief observation and

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pleasing others

The Hidden Cost of Pleasing Others

by Tim Hill
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  • Relationships / The self
  • 01 Nov

Many of us find it hard to say ‘no’ to other people; we end up saying ‘yes’ many more times than we really want to. We usually do this in

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Why Hurt People Lash out at Their Helpers

by Tim Hill
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  • Grief and Loss / Relationships
  • 27 Sep

When we see people suffering with powerful sadness or grief, we can be quite strongly affected. When we experience this, it’s natural to want to help; to treat them gently,

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Arguments: Always Strike When the Iron is Cold

by Tim Hill
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  • Change / Relationships / The self
  • 18 Sep

We have all heard the expression ‘strike while the iron is hot’ and this can leave us thinking that the best way to handle relationship issues is right here and

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Our Endless Search for the Greener Grass

by Tim Hill
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  • Anxiety / Change / Relationships
  • 15 Sep

Most of us will have heard the expression “the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”. It’s an elegantly simple quote that seems to imply that

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Our Need to Interfere: Letting Others Be

by Tim Hill
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  • Relationships / Self-esteem
  • 06 Sep

Sometimes we just can’t help ourselves, and want to get involved in the lives of other people. We sometimes can’t resist our need to interfere and control even those closest to

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Using Shame as a Weapon: Does it Work?

by Tim Hill
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  • Anxiety / Change / Relationships / Self-esteem
  • 26 Aug

Each of us has someone that we wish would change. We have tried being supportive, understanding, helpful and directive, but still they remain unchanged. It can be extremely frustrating and

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The Myth of the Good Experience

by Tim Hill
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  • Anxiety / Grief and Loss / Relationships
  • 21 Aug

One of the most enduring ideas we have is that if we have bad experiences, then we only need a good experience to counteract them. But we can end up

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The Seduction of the ‘Born Alone’ Myth

by Tim Hill
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  • Change / Relationships / The self
  • 01 Jul

Many of us have heard the expression that ‘we are born alone and we die alone’; many of us have nodded our heads at the wisdom of it, feeling that

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Are We Prepared to Pay the Price of Honesty?

by Tim Hill
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  • Change / Relationships / Self-esteem / The self
  • 21 Jun

For many of us, it is important that the people around us are honest. We want to be able to trust what we hear. Conversely, when we are around people

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Caught Between Wishing and Fearing

by Tim Hill
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  • Relationships / The self
  • 13 Jun

For each of us, there are things that we want and things that we don’t want. It seems natural to assume that we work towards having the things we want,

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False Praise

The Damage Done by False Praise

by Tim Hill
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  • Change / Relationships
  • 02 Jun

We all want to have our accomplishments appreciated for what we have achieved, and many find it motivating. Knowing this, we try to encourage others through praise and also hope

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Allowing Ourselves to Have Healthy Dependency

by Tim Hill
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  • Relationships / The self
  • 17 Apr

We often think that would like to be independent from other people; this is especially true if we have had difficult relationships with others. We imagine that if we weren’t dependent,

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Me, You and Assigning Blame

by Tim Hill
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  • Change / Relationships / The self
  • 10 Apr

Things go wrong and people get blamed. Sometimes it can be hard to work out if the person getting blamed is the person who should bear the blame. There is

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habits

The Dead Weight of Habits

by Tim Hill
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  • Change / Relationships
  • 05 Feb

Many of us know we have attitudes and habits that don’t help us in life; yet we sometimes feel powerless to do anything about them. We know they don’t help,

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changing your spots

Changing Your Spots

by Tim Hill
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  • Change / Relationships
  • 04 Feb

We have all heard the expression ‘a leopard never changes its spots’; we can doubt if it is possible for us to change. If we can change, what parts of

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Introverts: the Quiet Australians

by Tim Hill
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  • Change / Introversion / Relationships
  • 02 Feb

Most of us are familiar with the distinction between an introvert and an extrovert; we usually have a pretty fair handle on which of these best describes us. Both are

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The Burden of Being Perfect

by Tim Hill
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  • Change / Relationships / Self-esteem
  • 28 Jan

We all strive to be better at what we do; this is part of the way that we improve our self-esteem. Accomplishing things makes us feel good, and the better

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Causality: What You Did to Me

by Tim Hill
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  • Relationships / The self
  • 20 Nov

When it comes to the heated interactions between people, we often think in terms of one-way causality; what you did to me has an effect on me, or, I did a

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What is Emotional Fitness (And Do You Have It?)

by Tim Hill
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  • Emotions / Relationships / The self
  • 16 Oct

We seem to have a pretty clear idea about what physical fitness is. I think that many people would also agree on what mental fitness is. However, when it comes

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The Pleasures and Perils of Living Alone

by Tim Hill
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  • Introversion / Relationships / The self
  • 03 Oct

Many people live alone, and the number is rising in many developed countries. People almost universally see it as a bad thing and a sign of the loss of community,

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