Your Freedom: What Will You Do With It?
All people seem to seek freedom. We desire to leave behind the constraints on our life and to be less bound by our circumstances, whether those limited finances, unsatisfying relationships
All people seem to seek freedom. We desire to leave behind the constraints on our life and to be less bound by our circumstances, whether those limited finances, unsatisfying relationships
Sharing is one of the earliest things that we learn from our parents. Why? Because it seems our natural impulse isn’t to share. Our parents teach us to share in
People that have experienced psychotherapy or counselling often talk about its benefits. However, we don’t always identify with the benefit they experience – because their lives are different to ours,
Have you ever been told that you’re overthinking it? You might hear this from others; your partner, your friends or your colleagues. They might imply that thinking too much about
Many people like Christmas and the celebrations that it brings; it gives us a chance to catch up with family and friends we don’t see often enough and perhaps to
Different circumstances in our lives require us to respond in a variety of ways to meet the challenges they present. Sometimes we need to be able to push ourselves –
It’s a commonly held view that we want too much as adults because we were too spoiled when we were young. More particularly, as adults we focus excessively on compulsive
It’s common for all of us to have the sneaking suspicion that something is wrong with us, really wrong. We don’t want it to be true, but on the other
Many of us are aware of the damage that an atmosphere of constant criticism can have on a child. This type of environment destroys self-confidence, increases anxiety and decreases their
Sometimes we are mystified by the behaviour of others. They say and do things that we just don’t understand no matter how hard we try. They do things which seem
Many life events are traditionally associated with strong feelings; grief is associated with the death of someone close to us; joy is associated with the birth of a child and
When people tell me their problems and we try to work out how things came to be this way, it usually boils down to the client feeling that their problems
We sometimes think dismissively of the things that trouble us, and label them as ‘First World problems’. To us they can seem like trivial concerns, especially compared to the problems
.Many people come to therapy for the first time because their partner has sent them. One partner has done something which the other partner finds unacceptable, so they are labelled
We all bring history into our relationships, and sometimes that history is difficult for new partners. For some, it is very difficult to accept the things that our new partner
I recently heard some people on the train talking about the need to be 100% responsible for your communication with other people. It got me thinking, and I came to
We have all heard the expression ‘strike while the iron is hot’ and this can leave us thinking that the best way to handle relationship issues is right here and
Most of us will have heard the expression “the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”. It’s an elegantly simple quote that seems to imply that
Sometimes we just can’t help ourselves, and want to get involved in the lives of other people. We sometimes can’t resist our need to interfere and control even those closest to
One of the most enduring ideas we have is that if we have bad experiences, then we only need a good experience to counteract them. But we can end up
In popular culture we sometimes told that couples should solve their problems through making a deal. I’ll agree to do this, if you agree to do that. It’s seen as