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  1. Anna 28.04.2017 at 09:13

    I really like this approach. It is compassionate, empathic, and promotes acceptance as opposed to blaming or shame. Human beings are such complex creatures and reframing our personalities as “families” helps us understand all the subtle nuances of our feelings and interactions with the world.

  2. Tim Hill 28.04.2017 at 09:18

    Thanks Anna, I’m glad that you find this a useful approach – it certainly has been one that people seem able to relate to, especially when they imagine these other members of their ‘family’ are young children who need some guidance and help a more parental part of ourselves.

  3. Nicole Hind 03.05.2017 at 15:36

    I am often saying to people that in most cases, real change does not come from a place of ‘tough love’ but instead the places you’re talking about in this wonderfully creative post Tim. I wouldn’t say all families are able to give each other these kindnesses when facing problems, but most of us are more able to turn acceptance outwards more easily than inwards. It helps us break things down into ‘parts’ too, even externalise something rather than be super hard on ourselves.

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