Helping with Introversion
Many of us are quieter sorts who keep to ourselves, preferring not to socialise too much. Often termed introverts, we can feel quite uncomfortable in crowds, preferring small groups and intimate settings. We have a rich internal world that we can find very satisfying. The expectations of the extroverted people around us isn't helping us with our introversion.
Introverts: feeling a bit wrong
Although we can feel strongly about what makes us uncomfortable, we can also feel that there is something a bit wrong with us for being introverts.
One of the difficulties is that introverts are often drawn to extroverts and can end up in relationships with them. This is pretty understandable; all of us seek out people who seem to have qualities we don't have. However, some of the more outgoing people have a very difficult time understanding introversion, and by extension, introverts.
Because extroverted people like to be outgoing and social (and less focused on their interior worlds) it can sometimes be difficult for them to understand the world of introverts, who doesn't like to do these things. As is often the case, when we don't understand something it can start to seem like an aberration. To some people, introversion can look like a version of ‘not coping'.
Judged and labelled for introversion
So if you're an introvert you might be getting the message from an extrovert close to you that there is something wrong with you and you need to go to therapy to sort yourself out. You may have been hearing this for a while and are starting to wonder if it is true.
Being yourself, but more so
If you feel some of these pressures – a feeling that you are wrong for being an introvert, but a sense that it’s also somehow right – I'd like to invite you to come and see me for an initial consultation. I don't charge for this first consultation; it's an opportunity to discuss how we might be able to work together to help you live as an introvert in a world of extroverts. I do counselling in Richmond, an inner suburb of Melbourne and in Sunbury. I also offer couples counselling in Richmond and Sunbury for those who feel their relationship might need some help.
Of course, along the way we can also find out if there are some other things you’d like to sort out, and what we might be able to do about it them.