How to Keep A Focus on the Future
One of the reservations that people have about starting counselling is that it will all be about their past. For many people who have had a difficult past, it's not surprising that they would be unwilling to immerse themselves in it again. However, it's a misconception to think that counselling or psychotherapy is all about the past – in fact, it's just the opposite, with a strong focus on the future.
It's about the past – and the future
Certainly, understanding the past can be very important for understanding the way that we are now. We can be very influenced by the events of the past; our lives strongly reverberate to the things that have happened to us. Certainly, popular culture gives us the picture that the process of counselling or psychotherapy is about digging into our history. We can also be overly concerned with the past actions of someone else.
With this in mind, it's easy to believe that the process of counselling or psychotherapy will be one of endless examination of what happened in the past. From this point of view, it is understandable that you might not want to do this, or at least question the wisdom of doing so. It can seem that therapy would be a never-ending process of painful archaeology.
Psychotherapy – helping you to live now
However, the purpose of psychotherapy and counselling is firmly about living in the future. Even though we are complex beings, no matter what happened to us, the question for everybody is, “How can I make the most of the life that I have?” For this reason, I firmly believe that a focus on the future is essential for psychotherapy and counselling.
We are interested in the past; but it's in how we can use the past to understand the present and to make a better future. Therapy is designed to help us live for tomorrow, despite what happened yesterday.
Let me know what you think in the comments. If you found this interesting, you may like another blog post, Thinking About The Past.
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